THIS column is no justification for the reason why men kill women, neither why women kill babies, but it is simply to illustrate how both males and females have developed into blood-thirsty creatures with no remorse whatsoever.

Killing your partner will not change the fact that you caught her red-handed in your matrimonial bedroom, neither will smothering or dumping a baby at a dumpsite ensure that your runaway baby daddy will return.

It seems the human race has found a new way of solving domestic issues - cold-blooded murder. Somehow it seems as if our society is on a rollercoaster ride with  men competing with women to see who can take the most lives. No killing can solve relationship problems, but there is a need for all of us to make the most appropriate decision when we encounter unpleasant situations - walk away.

In the Catch-22 of modern romance, women are faced with the daunting task of deciding how to get out of relationships that are not equipped with exit doors - it is disturbing to note that society is slowly moving towards an era in which the only exit from a soured relationship is ‘death’.

This became evident when a colleague recently posted on a popular social networking site that there is no more life, because if a women cheats she is killed and if she decides to end the relationship - she still dies. Are relationships really worth it nowadays? Love seems to have been “buried alongside our forebears” since modern relationships are appear to be pivoted merely on toleration  - that is until one or the other partner has had it.

Compared to baby killings, I think men killing women is totally exaggerated. Women tend to get away when they murder innocent infants. The outcry for the blood of male perpetrators by the public clearly receives more attention than that of a woman who kills a baby.

Couples need to clarify the terms and conditions before entering relationships by addressing questions such as - are we in it for financial security, emotional security or simply because we do not want to spend freezing winter nights alone in bed?
Although men perpetrate the majority of violent acts against women, it is disappointing to learn that less than half of the violent acts committed are reported to the police - clearly women in our society are not striving towards a common goal.

To place men in the best position to choose alternatives, it is essential that we start talking early to boys about how men use violence to address, but not solve, problems, which I personally condemn. Maybe in that way we stand a chance to break the cycle of violence !

Like the old saying goes: “To a hammer, everything looks like a nail,” violence becomes the signature tool in men’s toolboxes that is used to fix problems.

Nonetheless, it remains clear that both male and female are in need of healing. Eewa